it’s been a week on
Have I told you lately
pullin in the driveway
I am just
giddy this morning
dulious? delicious? delightful? delirious?
Depends on how you view it
some things are marvelous
they are just too good not to share
when others may
Pee in your cheerios!!!
I have spent three days
“off the hook”
in the state of
it has just turned out to be
a road trip from hell…
that started out
Enterprise Rental car
a cocky little fellow
who is right now probably wondering where his precious
Mercury big ole blue
as I am drinking my coffee and trying to get my wits about me to
go and get in that big ole’ thing to drive up there and return it to that little
fellow who was not my idea of
“great customer service”.
NOTE TO SELF: use another rental car service and let the folks who book it for me know
that we do have options next time
in Tarpon Springs!
For those reading around the world
today is a geography lesson as well
for those at PESI
my dear friend Marnie has also made a note to herself that this was a
“road trip” and effort to wear out her
after my beginning with
I buckled in to the huge
Mercury and set out to Orlando,
arriving at a hotel right near ole’
Yep… so close but so far from the rides, the entertainment, and the dolphins and Shamu…
a great coordinator, and most wonderful folks
for a day
that began with smooth sailing
and continental breakfast as they all do,
mest some of
They worked hard, and they left in great spirits to fight traffic
and to get back to the hard work being done with many there
and also fighting the throngs of tourists that they have to dodge in their everyday lives!
at 430p or so,
most wonderful *(and my favorite place to stay()
Embassy Suites of Tampa!
Oh what a lovely property that is in Tampa!
I was able to meet my Bff There for dinner
who joined me and
room service man in a suite that was larger than many apartments for a great evening
that harrowing drive!
6am the next morning
as I went down for my
met a lovely woman who fixed that omelette
was just a sweet as she could be…
then I sat outside and enjoyed my complimentary coffee and the paper
waiting to start my day
I had set up on my part,
now knowing my coordinator would take care of the details, the magic box from
the company would arrive
I wondered if I would see old familar faces
or around that I had known
as the morning began.
I looked up as I heard a gentleman ask
If I was
I smiled and said
“why yes I am!”
Thinking perhaps he wanted me to sign a copy of
Healing Heartaches maybe…
But ohhh no
he was wanting to know where he would
“sign in” for the day. So I told him
he was to do that at the table with the coordinator in the room over there!
then it happened…
“No One IS there”~
didn’t need to read about bad news around the world anyway,
so I smiled and said, well guess we better see about it!
As I walked into the room,
to help with the
tasks of the day
“sign people in, give them manuals, do the things that coordinators do”.
I sent my buddy a text to let her know and went to the desk to see about my box.
EMBASSSY SUITES OF TAMPA
oh how you have let me down
with your lack of interest, lack of care, lack of ….
as you tell me
“we don’t have a box”
“we don’t really give a damn attitude”!
The Embassy Suites of Tampa
“We don’t have a box, but we’ll look for it”
have you ever had anyone say that
with that “tone” that makes you know
they really have no interest?
As I made my way back up the elevator, across the dining area, outside and down the steps
to the room that we were in
I found that all were seated for a day
Good that they had coffee and continental breakfast!
they had NO manuals, no sign in sheets,
I had NO coordinator
I introduced my self
prayed they could be as the willow
strong enough to bend
while I asked for their understanding
asked the gentleman to pass around a sheet of paper for them all to SIGN IN
while assuring them they will get their
“CEU’s” that they had come for
that we WOULD HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Around 10am an Embassy Person arrived with a
“fax” and it had a “real sign in sheet” for the participants to put their names!
Interestingly it also
Wedding Contract attached!
Well I got a bit worried thinking I might have to marry someone at lunchtime.
And sure enough with pressure from my folks up there in Wisconsin and me letting the Embassy Suites in Tampa
of my profound disappointment
box arrived near noon!
heaven help whoever is trying to get married there
as I was in possession of their contract to the sales department.
INteresting to note,
Director of Sales and Marketing is the woman who informed me that there
WAS NO BOX
in fact she is the one WHO SIGNED FOR THE BOX!
The day started out a bit lumpy,
they had the nerve to charge my participants to park
on the property
even after all of that.
shame on ya …
all the copies of
Healing Heartaches sold out by the end of the day
I was in the middle of some of the finest folks I gotta tell ya
Tampa, Gainesville, Sarasota, Orlando, Jacksonville
and the organizations
investing and taking the time out
are doing some hard work out there
for so many.
i LEFT Tampa grateful
after being with some of the best
ole Enterprise did NOT have a gps for me to rent
I had to download an “app for that”
now headed to
I arrived at
on the Riverfront after dark.
I met a fantastic young man who valet parked the monster mobile Mercury for me
by the name of Bodhi.
He was a delight.
He then sent me to the desk, where I met the second
wonderful and only second great thing
Wyndham on the Riverfront of Jacksonville.
Her name was Kristin.
As I was ready to lay down she let me know it would be a few minutes before my room was ready?
it was after all only after 8pm!!!
Humor is a valued ingredient in self care and in coping my darlings…
So I just looked haggard, and looked at her and said,
“see these two bags dear one… seee me?
Seee that bar there… I am goin over there, I am goin to have a black russian and lean against that wall. When we are ready, I want you to get one of those rolly carts and roll me to my room ok?”
I was tired I tell you… just tired! She just giggled and Bodhi had come to tell me he was goin to park the car, and would just write “Doc” on the ticket! With that Kristin wrote a little gift for me and it was a “free drink card”…
I had already texted my
PESI contact and pal
“what were you thinking” with this tour
having me drive from my home
I sure hope you have me a drink waiting in Jacksonville after
NO COORDINATOR AND NO BOX
needless to say
there was NO drink waiting from here!
Good ole’ Marnie
sends me a reply saying,
“oh gosh Dr Sherry I guess somone else drank it”
I get up to the room
where sweet Kristin had already sent my bags,
the bed is lovely
has a big pillow
with words that say
call room service
ask a question
the man says
NO and hangs up on me!
welcome to the Wyndham in jacksonville
6AM COMES EARLY
and at 6:15am I find out where I am speaking,
ask for where is the complimentary coffee
only to here the desk person inform me
THERE IS NO FREE COFFEE
you can buy a cup for 2bucks
“I don’t even get coffee”
(sorry buddy but I don’t really care what you do or do not get)
and where again am I speaking?
I arrive to the room that feels like I am standing in hell it is so hot there,
notice there is
NO BOX on the table;
there is no table for me to set up my AV
equipment, no podium;
the one of many managers is flitting around.
I ask for what I need
STARTING WITH THE PESI box
the temperature lowered
and various and other things!
He lets me know I can go to the restaurant and to tell them to “give me a cup of coffee”,
which one would think is easy,
NOT at the Wyndham of Jacksonville
I of course let them know
that I blog
and will of course let readers know
that this lovely property
is probably the
that does not give its guests a cup of coffee
as he ushers me out
telling me to enjoy my coffee~~~
At 730 there is
no continental breakfast
a lovely coordinator
who is panicing cos’ there is NO box
no real desire to find it
from the many there.
There are folks
there is HEAT
VERY HOT IN THE ROOM
I have been on the phone
DAY TWO THERE IS NO BOX
“I have one nerve left and they are standing on it at the Wyndham”
As we begin the day,
is unlike most
as I welcome folks from Jacksonville
We talk about my speaking in my state
we talk about
living in the ‘no pressure zone’
as we now see the Wyndham in action
or lack thereof!
The box finally arrives and folks get checked in
after I am told that PESI did not order breakfast but only coffee
I smile saying I have them on the phone,
is your director of catoring on property?
PESI always always has breakfast for its participants!
A bit later we see a lady come in;
she has food;
it was after AFTER
I had told participants
that they may want to you tube
“My Give a Damn Is Busted”
a great song!
One that will make them laugh
one that may remind them of this morning
one that also speaks to many things!
They were laughing
as this woman
came in the door
this is what she brought
They were sooo proud!
Can you IMAGINE?Yes, reallyTHAT WAS ALLTHERE WASno bagels, no donuts, no cream cheezeno nuthin but bite size that! andonly that many!!!PESI WILL HAVE A FINE FITwhen they get this picturecan u say“let’s not stay at the Wyndham Riverfront Jacksonville”whereyou get no complimentary coffeeyou getNO concern that a box that has been signed foris not sitting where it is supposed to beprior to your walking in the roomWHEREthe A/Ccannot make a room comfortableALL DAY LONGandit appearsno one really caresandon top of all of thatthey chargedthe folks to park?When they could have just as easily havesaid“don’t worry about it”“let us make it right for you for all you had to go through today“!
The most remarkable thing
spending the day with folks
restore passion and refuel folks
for the work they do
is that you also
aNOTHER man entered and let us know he was working on lowering the A/C temp, asked if we wanted fans?
WE WERE IN A FANCY WYNDHAM HOTEL?
I said, we will all take a free lunch instead and cocktails we need cocktails now, i’ll have a black russian!
the room exploded with laughter.
As I am moving into the lecture of the day,
the same man returns
interrupts the lecture, walks straight up to me
with what looked like a cup of coffee with a lid on it:
in the cup?
I tasted it:
soo STRONG i almost choked!
My participants were hysterical
I was absolutely choking with laughter
“now that is one way to shut someone up or
incite them to riot, they have me on the warpath already today
now they are giving me firewater?”
ANd so it was, the third day of speaking after as you can see on the map, driving all over the state of Florida
to meet and be with
some of the finest of the fine
in the state of Florida.
I did not drink that nasty drink
who in the world would ruin a good drink by putting milk in it anyways?
In Jacksonville we did do some hard work
the participants dug deep
exploring the causes, effects, impact
of caring and giving so much of themselves for those they are honored to care for, to serve, to walk with during some difficult times.
Professional caregivers often give so much to others
THEY HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES
I feel it is critical
I spend some time
LIFE IS FOR THE LIVING
YOU MUST LIVE YOUR LIFE
Thank you Jacksonvile For a joyous day
a splendid lunch, stimulating conversation
the great patience you showed as we stepped through the many complications
there in that fancy hotel..
I thank you for keeping it
Oh how it rained and the lightING streaked the skies as I travelled home
on that 5 plus hour trip last night!
I pulled that big ole car in the driveway and was ready to kiss the pavement
I could hear the squeals of delight from the four leggeds awaiting me from inside!
Many I met in Jax I bet were going to the movies last night to see
as we talked about it
reminded all there
today will remind all here:
YOU IS KIND, YOU IS SPECIAL YOU IS BEAUTIFUL
A special shout out
go get it baby boy
with those Bobcats tonight!
Sho do hope you all can take it and WIN…
I’ll be hollering from here in Florida for ya,
da Godmother loves some #51 and the Bobcats
up there in Radford VA!
To and for the rest
to see where I’ll be next
pesi.com and in the search hit compassion fatigue drsherrye showalter
and it should tell ya, but if I’m not doing somethin for them I’ll be out there speakin to someone somewhere else!
Wherever I am, I’ll remember you from where I’ve been, and I am grateful!
Where ever you are, whatever you are doing…
Get your passion on, and do it wellOHHHMarnie?Shannon?Julie/Bonnie?I need to feel the love my darlings!!!October 3 I’ll be in the friendly skiesflying to CT and Rhode Island!until thenit’s waiting to hear ifI’ll be running with the windouttoSouth Dakotayesmy friendsSouth Dakotait is still a part of theUNITED STATESout there where Native Americansliveandare dying with the largest suicide rates of teens and young peoplethe highest alcholism ratesandthe highest poverty ratesintheUNITED STATES OF AMERICAyesa part of our great Nationwhere not one celebritynotone Presidenthastaken a standfor ourFIRST AMERICANSwherepost trauma and inter generational chronic sorrowlivesandso many are wondering“do you remember us?”><visit and hear the voice of my friendWalter LittleMooon ofWounded Knee http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1194934361/the-thick-dark-fogalsoaVietnam Veteran“THANK YOU WALTER”
Walk In beauty,