Did you see Oprah’s interview of
The Houston Family?
The family of
Whitney Elizabeth Houston
*gone too soon*
the autopsy is still pending.
Only “O” could get the first in depth interview
she was able to talk to
Krissie the beloved child
of a star that millions now are buying CD’s and boosting her back on top of the charts.
I found it odd that they talked
rather than sitting down,
the body language told more than
I was impressed at the poise of Krissie,
I found myself wondering
if she had
a therapist that is walking with her on this journey of her remarkable grief.
Oprah knows when to make an
while I’m sure helping her viewership
that we hear is not doing nearly as good as she hoped.
She spoke to Krissie
Krissie spoke as one who is trying to wrap her heart and mind together
although appears to still be in the
secondary to traumatic stress
the death of her best friend.
Many learned much
about the relationship of
Whitney and her daughter on that show.
Of a love, yet change of roles
where Krissie was in the best friend role,
assurer role for her Mom
provided her with such profound support
“I’ve gotch YOU”
the refrain that we heard over and again.
Faith is strong in the Houston family,
Faith will carry them on
through the days and months ahead.
I wonder if this interview
too nerve racking
the Houston family.
After all, it’s only been a month or so,
since the world was told
we have heard
“I will Always Love YOU”
to the point of not wanting to hear it for awhile.
The funeral was moving
the words, singing, the casket and flowers
the tributes felt from the core of being.
We’ve been subjected to the not so flattering pictures, heard and re heard the speculations,
blames that have been cast,
National Enquirer showed the last photograph
Whitney in her casket.
It’s been so ugly in so many ways
to hear the statements of others,
read and listen to the press.
yes, addictions are horrible,
choices we make each and every day
affect and can infect so many around us,
can devastate in a hot second
“I got YOU baby”
the words of a mother that are now coming to her child through spirit
lights turning off and on
So quickly after the death, so powerful
Krissie and vital for her right here and right now.
The initial hug between Oprah and Krissie
while comforting was strained,
Krissie appeared nervous,
some will say she was nervous to be in the presence of Oprah.
I would have embraced her with more
with one of those
“I’ve GOT YOU” hugs…
heart to heart
And I am still not getting why they stood during the entire interview,
rather than sitting together
we later listened to Whitney’s best friend, manager and sister-in-law
talk with O.
clips of Whitney on stage with Oprah
her singing with Clive in the audience.
Oh how he believed she would return to greatness.
It was a night
of remembering Whitney,
of seeing a family
trying to stand strong during an interview
after the pleasant “you home is lovely”,
while hearing the thoughts
from the Houston’s
as they still stand in shock over this reality.
She seemed to know something was getting ready to happen, a feeling that so many in life have expressed at times, when they
perhaps that is why she hadn’t been in to see Whitney earlier,
why when she heard the screams she did not run,
but continued to walk after responding to someone to “call 911”
walked into that room.
Her heart knew.
Cissy Houston knew on a heart level it seems as well.
She had “that feeling”, that sense that
her baby wouldn’t be here for long.
then Whitney’s brother Gary Houston
joined on the interview.
There we saw
grief and shock
of the reality of loss.
As he spoke with great finese
He commented on the picture taken of his sister in the casket
referring to whoever took it as “wicked”,
and you could see the pain in his face,
his concern for his Mother,
his great love
Brother and sister, and they seemed to genuinely love each other, and like each other…
He ended by singing and his daughter playing the piano,
O and Patricia at the end of the piano.
His voice strong, his intention clear,
then it happened…
Reality and pain
his pain through the music
the life shared with a sister that is no longer here spilled forward.
Oprahs’ ending of that powerful interview,
I did not like it.
It felt like a “show that ended”,
“that’s a wrap”
sort of thing,
somehow it bothered me,
I ached for the family.
Perhaps this should have waited
the emotions would have been there,
the realness would have been there,
one month after a sudden and unexpected death
seems to soon
to have folks
in front of cameras
to talk of the depth of their loss
answer questions the world wants to know.
I worry for Krissie,
19 living in her own home,
making choices for herself
all the tempations that will find her.
I pray that her faith
she is receiving will give her what she needs
to step into her own greatness,
having learned so much from
I could listen to this song
for the music,
the dancing I did when you were
hot and on the scene,
the memories your music brings forward.
We all have been so blessed by
those who are so gifted in their delivery!
Oprah asked in her ending,
“have you had or did you get closure”?
With that I thought I would fall off my couch.
I for one do not like the
as it relates to grief, to death.
to sudden loss/death?
Surprisingly Patricia and Gary
seemed to think they have closure,
I believe that they have faith,
strong and loving faith.
Their faith lets them know that
Whitney Elizabeth Houston
is safe now,
she is with her Lord,
she is out of the lime light
those who were not there for her all the years she could have used someone to stand.
we have to
Faith it til we Make it.
I wish them all the time they need to come to grips with this painful loss,
the privacy and peace that all families
The body language
more than this interview could have ever said,
I think it was too soon…
Just keepin it real,
I wish and pray they have someone to walk this journey through sudden and traumatic loss with them, while they lean into each other
faith, love, compassion, and tolerence.
Walk in Beauty,