Kam enjoying a sandwich bigger than he is, yet managing to sink his teeth in.
Oh how folks are having to sink their teeth into this thing called
“the Sanwich Generation”
now finding themselves
between two worlds
raising their own kids, balancing jobs, lifes that are on full throttle and loved ones at home who are ill or disabled.
The demands are great, the efforts are strong as they make their way in a world of constant caregiving
in ways unimagined.
working two jobs to provide,
taking lunch hours to run home in traffic to check on loved ones,
then back to the job.
Setting up a room with a cooler a sandwich and a phone nearby, and making sure that the T.V. is set just so, while maintaining your sanity
and also attending the school functions if you still have kids in school only then to get home in time to fix dinner, to check homework, to run here and there and to catch up and still maintain ones’ balance if balance is still in your vocabulary and abilities.
Time for self?
It usually goes by the wayside along the way.
Nutrition, exercise, meditation, fun with friends of your own age,
remembering your own life and its sacredness, dancing with the tunes of the times and those days
of great and Motown sounds?
Somehow put on the back burner
as life gets in the way,
and memories dimmed
and friends grown weary of asking you to join them for an evening out, a meal, a time of gathering and listening to music or even a cocktail.
You have somehow become one of the millions now known as the
and it is not a baloney and cheese,
nor a good ole’ mouth watering tomato sandwich!
More and more those in that squeezed between the generations folks find themselves unable to find resources for help; perhaps in rural areas, or busy streets and cities,
they are so busy they do not know who to turn to for support
they forget to ask.
Once upon a time, folks raised their kids, they cried about the
empty nest syndrome
then they celebrated freedoms
and enjoyed their own life
while seeing parents age and enjoy,
seeing kids grow up and fly
they then did their thing
Adults who had grand plans
are working forever
are now not just extending a hand,
but finding the extra bedroom is once again filling with either parents or grown kids or grandkids
that they are now raising,
extended families are on the rise
as economies dip
the fight or flight
makes folks return to the nest
and the squeeze and pressure
is on the boomers
to be all and more
while caring now for their own kids and grandkids
and their Elders
and somehow losing themselves in the middle.
This is a generation in need of reminders and support
There are times when out of love
one can bite off more than you can
Compassion Fatigue is tearing folks down, professinally and personally.
And with that comes illness, immune system break-down, joylessness, heartache, resistence to change and lack of hope.
Folks may forget to dance, to laugh, to embrace mindfulness.
Every time we forget how very important we are to the world
we forget our strength.
Those in this sandwich generation
are squeezed like orange juice without freshness overtime
that is tragic.
Within each person is a light, however dim it is there.
The pure essence of an individual is the ability to fan that flame into empowerment through support, care, compassion and the real deal of knowing;
before rendering aide to another you must first put your oxygen mask on.
1 of every 8 Americans is caring for an Elder and also a young person
and extended families are returning to the fold.
People must find a way to balance, to be mindful knowing that this is also “their live” right here right now.
You do not want to look back at some point in time and regret, or wonder,
“why was it never my time”.
Out in Texas our Warrior Thomas O’Brien has been again in the hospital as Cancer continues to attack his most precious 21 year old body. He has taught the world amazing grace under fire; a gentle man of tremendous spirit, he is a fighter no doubt.
We continue to light the candles, to send him messages of hope, of compassion, love and gratitude that he shares this journey of heartaches, struggle and passion
with thousands along the way.
His Mom Debbie is a brave woman,
one who knows that every day is a gift now tells us she is crying more,
she and Thomas both wanting him home, surrounded by loved ones
at it appears that Cancer is winning the war
yet he is the ultimate victor
of lessons being taught to so many
in his way of love and generous spirit.
I admire this young warrior and his old soul.
Please join me in lighting a candle and sending the Universal light of peace, hope and healing for him and his Mom as the journey continues now.
WE ARE STANDING THOMAS O’BRIEN
we are with you always.
I sure hope if he gets to the next place before I do, he will find his way to let me know it is just magnificent as they greet him there
I’m sure he’ll see so many of those powerful angels I’ve known through the years;
maybe even Walter will find him and they’ll talk about hot cars!
What a remarkable young warrior
who openly talked about things that most will run from in a hot minute.
Did I say
What a remarkable caregiver and Mom he has and those who love him…
YOU are fully loaded,
Walk in Beauty,
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- 7 Tips For Caregivers To Answer The Toughest Questions (huffingtonpost.com)
- Alzheimer’s Caregivers: The Sandwich Generation (webmd.com)
- 50 States, 50 Sandwiches, 50 Posters (neatorama.com)
- Behold the Meatiest Sandwich in Human History [Sandwiches] (gizmodo.com)
- Brew It (amaturecaptures.wordpress.com)
- Giving to BreeAnna (caregiving.com)
- The “Sandwich Generation” and the Changing Family Dynamic (401kplanadvisors.com)
- Motherhood and caregiving, for love and money (mojomom.com)